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Worked at a Best Buy back in 2018. I’m 5’. I thought I was going to be trampled several times by aggressive packs of customers. I quit a few days later.

Except on women’s day

Depends. And it can change based upon environment and philosophical needs. Lots of variables/case by case. But the tl;dr is charisma is just pairing yourself with positive social feelings…so the sight of you becomes rewarding for many people.

You don’t specifically need charisma to change behavior. Charismatic behavior makes you a reward. Hence people are more likely to engage to please you. But there are other ways to be rewarding.

Manipulation and coercion are different.

Manipulation is altering people’s motivations until they do the thing you want them to do even if they think it’s their idea in the end. This includes benign changes to environmental conditions. For example, making classroom A entirely analog and classroom B digital fun cracktopia. Some individuals are really rewarded by one or the other.

Now, I want to alter (change, not necessarily increase or decrease, this is subjective)the motivation to go to cracktopia specifically so i bring those conditions in line with classroom A, analog. The motivation will therefore be altered and reward will be signaled by some other thing. There is no overt punishment or coercion here, just altering of motivation.

Coercive control necessarily involves aversive items such as punishers or failure to withdraw aversive conditions such as holding a nose until a mouth opens. Or physical full hand-over-hand prompting. Might there be a reason that is acceptable for this? Yeah, some people need help with items of hygiene even into adulthood and even with years of intervention and therapy require physical assistance.

That is to say, both coercive control and manipulation without coercive control can work to the benefit or be extremely detrimental.

You don’t need any charisma if you can alter motivation. As a behavior analyst nobody likes but everyone listens to.

Yeah good point. I’m interested to see how it will work out, and whether it will become less convenient to have a whole gaming setup anymore.

I might get brave and try it on this older machine. I’m not super savvy. I can put Legos together…like a good millennial, but that’s about it. One foot at a time etc.

It’s time for me to build a new gaming pc. With the current cost and this…(keeping in mind I’m no computerologist) I may just get the Steam Machine.

Dating and already having nearly grown children in your thirties is also weird. People assume you aren’t allowed to have standards (single moms are for fun) or to raise their small children for them (mommy shopping). Or you are looking for a replacement parent (absolutely not). It’s…something.

Oh no t.t

Just belting out all my favorite songs on the drive home where no one can possibly hear me.

Being loved by and loving animals does make a person more attractive for sure.

I stop doing my hobby thing while I’m still having fun. Which keeps me motivated. Also. I’m shit at it, so no risk of monetizing.

This is such an insightful comment and it nails a couple points.

It can be so hard to simply enjoy the moment, especially when there is so much pressure to be productive. Comparison really is the thief of joy.

This is to make people mad right? I just want someone to cuddle and finish getting old with. I buy my own baubles.

Depends on the gym. There is boldering (no rope) you do that completely solo. Some gyms also have auto-belay which is with a rope rope but you don’t need a buddy. A lot of gyms have meet-up groups. It is a full body workout so I recommend giving it a try on a day you don’t have much planned the next day, that’s all. I did most of my climbing solo to be honest.

It’s pretty easy to get started if you have a gym nearby and a little disposable income. They pretty much teach you everything and you can rent gear for a day. Over 30, you’re gonna want to take the next day off.

My job is super active. On top of that, I walk, run, and practice martial arts. I eat healthy af meals (vegetarian). I don’t drink. One cheat meal a week, I guess. Top-rope rock climbing once in a while. 5’, 118 maintaining…which sounds fat, but I’m pretty much just muscles if you don’t count the bewbies.

My vice is candy though. And it’s peppermint bark season. Send help.

Education, perhaps? I know it’s under attack as well. Maybe there are some opportunities though.