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On Android and IOS, i like Snikket.

On desktop, Gajim

I usually name mine after songs that I happen to be listening to at the moment.

I would get a powered USB hub for your hard drive, then plug in the hub into your RPI4. The usb ports on the pi cannot handle a lot of power(from what I remember).

Yes, i have used tailscale. I just use wireguard alone because I find it has better performance in my experience.

Lemmy Jellyfin Wireguard so I can access my home network from outside

All three are easy to manage(so far).

My main gripe is with movies. After a while, the simlar video recomentaions are filled with “Free with Ads” movies. I don’t even watch movies on Youtube. Its annoying.

I usually have to clear cookies to get rid of them.